They Deserve Better.

Speak to me oh master of the stars, (or as you may know them, Yahoo Horoscopes).

Seriously this is mine for today.  After the way things in my life have been going, there couldn’t have been any more fitting advice from any source possible!

    

You can try to teach someone who’s rigid to be more flexible, but do not get too disheartened if that stubborn friend, family member or coworker shows little if any sign of ever loosening up! Their failure is not your fault. See, in order to learn to be flexible, people have to be ready to be flexible. They have to be able to see things from other people’s perspective, to walk a mile in their shoes. This person needs empathy to start to relax their up-tight attitude.

 

So, it is not me?!?  I am being flexible and open minded enough?  It isn’t that my instincts are off or that my perspective is inaccurate?

 

One back in October, 2001 I visited an advisor.  My main question was this, “What do I do when I feel like every time I try; I walk into a brick wall?” 

Her advice, “Turn around and walk away from that wall.”

Sure this seems like simple advice but for some reason it kept eluding me.  The answer was so remedial and looking me in the face but I just didn’t see it.  Less than a month later on November 1, 2001, that is essentially what I did and I can honestly say my days have ALL been better since. 

 

This is my dilemma for today; why is it that if a women who has been scorned and has turned and walked away from her furry and moved on with her life can not ever be free of this circumstance?  Unfortunately when you share children with someone, they NEVER really go away!  They are there in your children’s lives frustrating them and you with their choices.  Continuous frustration by “the wall” that is still there.  So, this woman can have moved on but her frustration for what is done to her children and her frustration for what her children should have but don’t, this frustration is ALWAYS chalked up to “she (you) just hasn’t gotten past being left and she (you) need to move on.”

 

Listen!  F*CK THAT!  I have moved on and I am happy in my life.  I live well and have great pride in all the things I have accomplished since that first day of November all those six and a half years ago!  Sure hell may hath no furry, but there is nothing to say that the furry doesn’t subside and give way to an acknowledgement that life is better without a controlling, manipulative, abusive person around on a daily basis. 

 

There is however one thing that upsets me, saddens me, angers me and will ALWAYS for the rest of me years sicken me! 

“My children have a crappy dad and they are perfect and wonderful and they deserve better than they have gotten!”